A Little Bit About Me
Hi, Assalaamaleikum,
Definitely not a subject I am accustomed to dealing with, that is writing for the subject of my own marriage, so I will try to do my best to do justice here! I'll categorizing things, its easier for me to think:
Where I am on my Islam:
I'm far from perfect, VERY FAR. But I try to maintain where I am and inshaaAllah will hope to continue to learn and get better.Alhumdulillah, I pray 5 times a day, give Zakaat, Fast, intend to go for Hajj. I try to increase my knowledge by attending lectures, when possible, and and watch a few here and there from some speakers I enjoy.
Professionally:
I have had my ups and downs, currently I am happy to be fortunate to have permanent position at a power-plant, which has offered me growth and stability. It's important to note, I at lease hope to be ambitious, and would need my spouse's support on moving ahead with my career, so maybe a geographical move if need-be, some tough financial times, etc. None of that is happening now, but that's how I've seen my career so far, if I need to make the move, then so be it (that doesn't mean I do not discuss things or that I'm closed to other opinions, just stating things from a professional perspective).
Temperament:
This is a tricky one. I like helping people, with what is possible on my end, so I try to be kind, supportive and helpful. When things go bad, I would consider myself generally accommodating and patient, but I guess everyone has their quirks. I have had anger issues in the past, and try my best to mitigate it, can't say I'm perfect, but I have made significant progress. Currently, I may get upset, and then will come around and apologise/try talk about it calmly, etc. So I guess the policy of shutting up and not talking when one is angry is really a good policy. I do have issues when I get migraine headaches; that's where my family just doesn't speak to me and I just ask in broken words for food and just need to be left alone (usually migraines kick in if I leave my stomach empty for too long coupled with being overworked and stressed).
I am quite a frank and open person, at times it comes out as blunt to people, without me realising it. I like a part of that, where I feel blessed by Allah that I am what I am. But sometimes people see me coming off a little to blunt and rude, so I am trying to soften that.
Other than that, I guess, I'm a weird introvert/extrovert mix. I am kinda shy in some ways, but once I get talking, then I really need to stop myself. I hold conversations with random people, but at the same time I really have only few people that I rally trust and keep close. Besides, who can have like a million "close" relationships. Relationships that I cherish, are ones I visit regularly and keep up with and be there for however possible.
I am quite conversational, and enjoy various topics which I like to discuss, and hope my significant other can actually participate as well. My first language is English so I'd prefer my spouse's is too. I do not like the use of profanity and likewise avoid content that has that as well. I do, rarely watch something online, maybe an animated movie. But in general I do not watch the tele.
I'm not much of a food person, I've had the exact same breakfast for the last 20 years, and do not have any interest in changing it. Other meals, I have pretty much the same thing every day, and I am very happy with that!
What I think about responsibilities:
Will, Allah has mandated for the man to be the bread earner, so I guess that would be my department. I do not necessarily have a problem with my spouse working, pursuing a further career, so long as our home doesn't start to fall apart; my primary concern being the kids not being taken care of, as both partners do not give them the attention they need.
With chores; I usually do some cleaning, however, more recently I cannot easily use a vacuum cleaner and do dust related work due to my underlying asthma which has recently come back. I do not know hot to cook, but I can manage a little fried omelettes and make a few sandwiches if that counts. If money can afford I would not mind having some paid help if that eases the burden on my wife.
I look forward to homeschooling my kids, and I think both parents are up for quite an experience. Again, this is something I look forward to discussing, and do not have a perfect answer to now, and if we do not have answer then school it is, preferable in a Muslim country or an Islamic school.
In the end, I think it's a joint effort and we would have to talk out and work out how things are to be managed.
Hobbies:
Researching ideas of my interest
3D Printing
Ice Skating, roller-blading
Hanging out with my friends
Playing some of my retro games on my PC
Playing games with my siblings
Da'wah via various channels
Helping friends with their careers however I can
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What I Am Looking For
This is more awkward than writing about myself!
First off, avoid any later awkwardness, on the subject of how one looks, they say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". So I absolutely believe that Allah has every human being of every race and colour beautiful, and I mean that. But at the same time, we all have preferences. Therefore, I rather we get that out the first and "see" if we are okay with "look" of things. I not want to have to turn a wonderful person down, way later, when I realise, I just am not seeing the look of things working out. Maybe a quick skype call in the presence of the mahram?
I look forward to marrying someone who'd help me be a better person. So definitely in my deen, supporting my in my career, helping raise my kids as good Muslims.
I would look forward to someone with sound moral and ethical values, so again, try to be good Muslim, nobody's perfect, but that there is a desire to be better, to grow and to get closer to Allah.
I try to be kind and respectful, and likewise would like a spouse who also tries to maintain a standard of respectful communication. think it's fair to say that I hope would extend that kindness, compassion and etiquette myself to my spouse and her family, and she she should be inclined to doing the same.
It would be great having someone who likes to exercise, it would be fun to have someone I can join in with to help me get into shape as well!
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