A Little Bit About Me
I know I have written too much but I hope it helps you decide if you would like to speak further. Otherwise I wish you all the best in your search.
Background INFO:
I'm a British (born and bought up here) Bangladeshi (Sylheti) Muslim girl living in East London, currently working in a role I enjoy for a local community organisation.
I don't and never have smoked, taken drugs or alcohol - can't stand the smell either. Don't like shisha either, sorry if that offends anyone.
INTERESTS:
Like a lot of people, shopping, eating out, meeting people, chocolate and other desserts like mishti/mitai (I don't discriminate between sweet things), music, films (bollywood), baking, engaging in intellectual conversations, travelling to different places, exploring different countries, gym, cycling (not very good but managed to complete a 40 mile charity ride), and gardening (have an allotment plot). I try to eat healthy (organic, free-range where possible). I am not good with heights but have tried indoor skydiving (wasn't too scary actually) and abseiling (while reciting bismillah the whole way down). I love wearing sarees in any occasion (even shopping at Carrefour in Greece). Also like listening to Nouman Ali Khan and Mufti Menk (particularly tafsir lectures). Currently learning to swim and learning about beekeeping. Did I mention chocolate?
VICES:
Stubborn, blunt (sorry if it offends people), still learning to know when to say nothing (see previous point), overly emotional (yes I cry with TV characters) and my addiction to all things sweet.
Pet HATES:
Has to be smoking, dishonesty, backbiters and people who are 2-faced, arrogant and judgemental.
Speaking of PETS:
I don't mind animals but wouldn't describe myself as animal lover. I don't mind if you want to keep animals as long as you take sole responsibility (unless it's bees).
CAREER:
I wouldn't describe myself as ambitious, I like working in the non-profit sector because I feel I make more visible impact then when I worked in other sectors. However I may choose to work after marriage mainly to be able to support my mother but I'll make a decision once I get to that stage.
FAMILY:
Just my mum, dad passed away when I was 12. One sister and 2 beautiful nephews. As I don't have any brothers to take care of my mum, she is my responsibility, so that's why I am looking for someone who lives within London, so I can reach her easily as and when necessary. I am NOT looking for a 'house-husband', I have no qualms in living with my in-laws, but if you view my mum as a burden then you can stop reading right now. Mum is aware I am on this site. and if we are speaking chances are she has seen your profile too. If things go well, the person you have to impress besides my mother is my uncle (details shared to you when necessary).
Oh and for those who care for such things, we are from Jogonathphur thana in Bangladesh.
FAITH:
I do my salah and fast (including Sunnah fast Mon/Thu and three white days). Striving to improve my salah and tajweed (I learnt my surahs reading Bengali transliteration so not the best in pronunciation!)
PERSONALITY:
I have been described as the 'nice' one, family-orientated yet independent. I do come across as introverted to most people but to those close to me know I can be very talkative. And you're probably thinking judging by the amount she writes she could probably talk for England, but I can assure you I'm a terrible conversation starter! So I thought it would be easier to have a friend describe me, so here goes:
"The first time I met Ruzina was in year 9 maths class. 'Hey, well done on the maths class test, you got the highest mark in the class!!' was the first thing I remember saying to Ruzina. She went on to get one of the highest marks in our year for the national exams.
This is no surprise. Ruzina is a paragon of intelligence, having a special talent for logic - either in number (maths) format or words (philosophy). My first impression of her was a chronically introverted person who kept herself to herself. However, I was wrong. Although, Ruzina is not the life and soul of a party but she definitely fuels the party in other ways. Sometimes in 'yummy' ways via her culinary contributions and sometimes just by her calming presence.
Ruzina has a whole portfolio of traits which is bound to impress many and is something I will not go into in fear of having a soporific effect on you. However some prominent traits of Ruzina, and what you will no doubt come to admire as well, is her unique brand of honesty. This brand is one in which she will tell the truth unconditionally even if it's at times when others will wimp out. Her endeavour to understand people, her strong sense of self, her innate wisdom, her desire to want the best for others and her pure conviction in Allah. She is a person of strong, unwavering morals.
She has strength and depth in her character and it comes in a beautiful package. By the way, Ruzina can be fiery - but I hear that isn't necessarily a bad thing!"
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What I Am Looking For
Lists feel superficial - connection between two individuals happens with conversation imo - but if it helps then so be it:
* Has a strong positive spirit
* British Muslim (so bought up and educated in the UK)
* Lives in the Greater London region
* Non-smoker
* Good character
* Independence, ambition & self-confidence are admirable traits
* Sincere intention of marriage (no time passers please)
* Would entertain the idea of flexitarianism (not a necessity-I'll be impressed if you know what this means and why I suggest it)
* Can cook (not a necessity either!)
* Would like to try new things together (or separately is ok too)
Faith is between each individual and Allah. I am striving to improve my relationship with Allah and would love to meet someone who is also striving the same. Of course we may be on the same or different point in our practice and that's fine. We should encourage each other but not dictate each others practice. Also if a headscarf or item of clothing is more important to you then I'm sorry you are reading the wrong profile.
So if you feel like we may be looking for each other, let's start speaking and see if our personality matches. I would like to add in my view, the foundation of any relationship is trust and respect. If you don't have that, even if there is 'love' that relationship isn't going to hold for long. I know you don't know me enough to trust me, but it should be something we aim to commit to building on as things progress. If you are independent and make your own judgements in life, rather than blindly follow what others say/do, then please drop me a message. Otherwise I wish you all the best in your search.
"...because life is too short to be anything but happy."
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