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Asalaam-o-alikum Ladies,

I hope this message finds you well. I have updated this part of the profile after realising that it's best to give a clear picture of me here because many individuals love visiting your profile number of times every day but never break the ice and start the conversation to get to know each other better.

They also look for answers of their unasked questions. So, why not help them to solve the mystery.

I consider myself a family oriented person with good family values. I pray 5 times namaz and recite Quran daily. I love getting as much as possible knowledge about Islamic history and how our Prophet Mohammad PBUH, lived his life. I believe that I need to be educated enough myself for my children so I can pass my correct knowledge and experience to my kids. (Of course both of us together)

As of today, I'm 36 years old, from West Midlands. I work as a freelance chauffeur and run a small business myself for last 8 years. Shukar Alhumdulillah. I have provided my executive transport service to Tv celebrities, footballers, cricketers, politicians and VIP corporate clients. A major event I've covered was the Commonwealth Games Birmingham in 2022 on stage and received achievements award in Liverpool awards ceremony. I have also worked in retail for 10 years as an assistant store manager and senior training mentor for a multinational company to cover stores in Birmingham region.

I have a tight knit family. I'm the eldest of 4 siblings. In addition to English, I can speak, understand and write Urdu. I can also speak and understand Punjabi and Potwari language. We speak fluent Urdu at home.

Just to add something here as I feel that it is important to show share my thoughts and views infront of the interested individual(s) that, I am serious about marriage and I am solely here to find a suitable person who is like minded, so both of us can hold each other's hand in this journey of our life. As soon as I found that person Insha'Allah in next few days, weeks or months time (I don't know exactly when, only Allah SWT knows better) this account will be deleted with immediate effect. We are already living around a lot of fake attractions, distractions and fitna. I wouldn't want any negative vibes to ruin our beautiful relationship.

My time, love, care, honesty, loyalty, trust and attention is for and will be for my soul mate and it is MINE and OUR responsibility to protect our relationship together. The way I give respect and value to my own precious time, exactly the same way I do to other individuals on this platform too. So, please respect that.

I respect your views, opinions, preferences and thoughts but don't assume things and make a judgement about someone without knowing any facts about them or their story in a little detail. Hence, in this journey of life you have to think wisely before you make a decision. You could lose someone genuine purely because you assumed something just by listening to someone else or looking at the tiny portion of their profile which you don't expect, preferred or interested to know.

I don't believe in writing lengthy paragraphs or essays about myself (likes, dislikes, hobbies & interests). I'm a normal human like you who is busy in everyday work and personal life and spare time I spend a quality time with my family. Our communication can help us to understand each other much better, where you can ask me anything if you may wish to ask and I'll be more than happy to answer your questions. Then let's see if both of us wants to start writing a new chapter(s) of our life together to make our memories.

Asalaam-o-alikum Ladies,

I've had to update this section after countless thousands and felt that why not give my thoughts and recent experience(s) some words, after joining this platform.

I hope this part of section will give you a clear picture of me and what I'm looking for.

Keep a cup of tea or coffee with you and enjoy reading 📚

We all are mature and sensible enough to understand our basics, responsibilities and what we "NEED" in life. I believe in reality based life experience not a social media life experience with full of fake attractions. Hence, I do not wish to follow any checklist if I'm in the search of my soul mate in life through family and friends help or through this platform.

A bitter reality is that, majority of us are grown up adults, but don't even understand the meaning of "WANT" and "NEED" in their life. Hence, we often run after an imagery world, desires, and look for perfection in people. We "WANT" things to be done in our way (with my way or no way kind of attitude). Especially in this day and age, we have been massively distracted by the fake attractions, unreasonable demands and due to this sadly, we have lost the ability to see the potential and good qualities in people, just because we "WANT" our future partner to be so and so and so and so and then the list goes on and on and on...

Even if 1 thing is missing or one box is still showing not ticked then this leads to the end of the conversation by saying that "I'm sorry, we are not compatible, all the best". We often lose qood quality and genuine people in life by expecting too much and be unreasonable with them and expecting them to be perfect for us. Remind yourself that, it's okay not to be perfect.

I believe that, if we lower our expectations, come out from the mindset of "I WANT" kind of words and start look for more potential in people then you'll be able to see more individuals settling down in coming future and happily married with their spouse. Rather than waste quality years of your precious life and then start complaining in the age of late 30s or 40s and 50s that "I've been single all my life or have had bad experiences and i still couldn't find someone genuine, honest, loyal and trustworthy."

Ladies, this is all achievable but on the same note it's in your hand that what you are looking for. There are countless decent guys /men out there waiting to be settled down. It also depends on your personal choice, who you go after, good ones or the bad ones... 🤷‍♂️

Surah An-Nur Ayat 26 (24:26 Quran)

ٱلۡخَبِيثَٰتُ لِلۡخَبِيثِينَ وَٱلۡخَبِيثُونَ لِلۡخَبِيثَٰتِۖ وَٱلطَّيِّبَٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَٱلطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَٰتِۚ أُوْلَـٰٓئِكَ مُبَرَّءُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَۖ لَهُم مَّغۡفِرَةٞ وَرِزۡقٞ كَرِيمٞ
Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.


Majority of us brag about our own qualities in front of others, but We have forgotten about our basics and most importantly, our basic education about working on our relationships with others. This is including your relationship between you and your spouse, parents, siblings, children and friends. We have forgotten that Allah SWT has given all of us brain, but not everyone knows how to use it. 🤷‍♂️👏👏👏

The way, there are some useful tools we "NEED" to use to build up a house 🏠. Exactly the same we "NEED" relationship building tools to make a relationship more stronger.

I've listed some of the basic tools, just in case if some of the intelligent people here don't know them:

*Love
*Care
*Communication
*Mutual respect
*Mutual understanding
*Compromise
*Sacrifice
*Tolerance
*Patience
*Kindness
*Honesty
*Trust
*Forgiveness
*Emotional support
*Listening skills
*Acknowledgement
*Realisation of your own mistakes
*Self corrections
And much more...

If you are carrying these tools, then you are walking on a right path of life and you are in a strong position to work on a strong foundations of your relationship and make it strong, long lasting, beautiful, romantic and peaceful everyday. On the same note, if you are not carrying these basic tools then, it's a wake up call for you. You "NEED" to work on yourself before finding yourself a partner. A lot of work still needs to be done on your basics. A marriage needs home work and team players. Otherwise you are just going to waste and ruin your own and other person's time and emotions.

Lastly, I just want to say and request to all respected ladies that, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't listen to horrible and unexpected stories of unsuccessful marriage life experiences of other people's life and make judgement and decisions of your precious life. This is the worst mistake someone can make.

Don't forget that:

Every story is different
Every individual is different
Every family is different
Every marriage is different
Every case is different
Every experience is different

Think wisely... Your life and your time is precious. Don't waste quality time of your life in search of a 100% partner by listening to other people. Past time never come back for anyone.

Anyways... Let's move on...

I'll keep this section as simple and short as possible.

I would prefer someone same age as me or younger.

I don't believe and don't like any caste system. As long as you are a Sunni Muslim, you try your best to keep a good balance of deen aur duniya and pray your salah regularly or trying your best. Namaz and focus on deen is very important to me and I'll be lucky to have someone in my life where we can grow together with our beautiful Islamic values.

Whether you are single, divorced or widow, please do not hesitate to contact. I welcome everyone with respect. May Allah SWT guide us in this journey of life. Insha'Allah and Ameen

Just to add something very important here which all the ladies would want to know about living arrangements after marriage.

As I'm the only son, I have a responsibility towards my mother to look after her. I understand and respect your privacy, independent space, comfort zone but due to my personal circumstances mentioned above, I'm unable to offer a separate accommodation to any individual after marriage. Just to be clear that it's not because I can't afford it, it's because I can't leave my mother on her own. I'm the only support for her. If that's an issue then I'm sorry ladies, there's nothing I can do anything about this. I'm a straight forward person with a clean heart and with my clear views and I do not wish to waste your or my own time by selling you those dreams or giving you any false hopes which I can't deliver in near future. It's best to be clear with certain things than have issues later in life. I hope you can understand this.

I just want to say that not every in laws are bad people to live with. Again, think wisely...

If you feel that we have some connection then don't miss this opportunity to write your first word towards our journey.

Lastly, A humble request to those individuals who are not UK citizen or currently doesn't hold indefinite leave to remain status in the country, please accept my sincere apologies in advance. I already have had bad experience in the past, I'm sorry I don't want to go through another one. No offence to genuine people from overseas but I've learnt my past lesson in hard way.