A Little Bit About Me
If you're out there and you're serios. get in touch in'sha'Allah
as salamu alaykum, Hii helloo heyy
Genuinely looking for someone to share the rest of my life with.
I have a huge family! 4 older brothers 3 older sisters and a huge army of niece's and nephew's. father passed away many years ago, so it's just my mum. I live at home with my mum, one brother and his wife and child.
I am a really laid back and easy going individual. I can be seriosly boring, but that does not mean I don't like spontaneity. If you had any great ideas I'd tag along and accompany you like how a companion should 😅. dont worry I'm not the kind of guy that'll say 'are you sure this is a good idea' if you decided we go bungee jumping or somthing of the like. *he coughs*
I am divorced, I got married in 2014 and unfortunately it ended before it began. It was an arranged marriage and the families just kind of forced/rushed it without us getting to know each other. I don't want to point fingers at the families as we should ultimately hold ourselves accountable for the decisions we make. I share this with you mainly because I've noticed there is a very real stigma around divorcee's and I want you to have some insight and know that sometimes these things happen. People shouldn't be judged and cast aside like they are used goods. I don't want to be seen like that and I wouldn't want anyone else to be seen like that either. I also share this incase you're interested and wanted to know what had happened. Also because though I would want family involvement as soon as reasonably possible, there should be a limit to how much they control a situation and should not intefere in the process of two individual's getting to know each other. I don't say this meaning we talk endlessly and be cyber buddies. I would like to get married as soon as possible but that does not mean I'm in a hurry and want to rush anything, there is a balance.
What I Am Looking For
I am looking for someone who is content with themselve's and with life. Someone who would like to live a nice quiet life. Someone who isn't influenced by others, what they have and the world around us. Someone who takes diligent care to surround themselve's with positive people who genuinely care and love them as opposed to those who pretend to care and slowly wear you down with negative remarks thus resulting in you manifesting this same behaviour unto others. Someone with a strong conscious awarness and intellect to identify this. All around someone truly content with themselve's, to compliment my life unconditionally as I them as opposed to changing a soul to fit their desires and expectations. A true friend, partner, lover and life long companion. Someone you long to meet in the akhira after all the high's and low's, good and the bad, the sweet and the bitter tribulations of this world.
Get in touch if you might be interested? I don't bite. I could sit and write all day in much detail so you could gauge and visualise my personality, my character, but that would leave us with nothing to talk about and we'll just stare at each others face after marriage 😅. Though I don't mind the thought of just gazing into the eye's of my partner in serene silence, however, I believe that getting to know someone is a life long journey and I would like to enbark on that journey in discovering my partner after marriage. This however, does not mean we don't identify if we would be compatible before marriage. Compatibility is an interesting and delicate subject, and I'm sure everyone has their own view and understanding. I believe you could talk forever before marriage and still would not fully know if you are compatible because you'd constantly discover something new about someone and not know whether you'd like that thing about them, it's endless and you could leave the option available to decide whether or not you feel compatible open forever, leaving the option available to turn around and leave at every encounter which you might not be happy with. This will continue to happen the longer you get to know them, both before and after marriage and it defeats the purpose of comprimise and growth together as a pair in a marriage. We should identify what we can live with to guage immediate compatibility and work on the rest after marriage?
Wish you all the best in your search! Don't give up!
oh and umm.. please have your profile visible if you choose to speak with me, I find it really discourteous. It is a matrimonial site where people would like to gauge if they are mutually attracted. It just makes it awkward having a conversation then revealing photos later and realising your not actually attracted. It wastes time and is not productive. Also, if you match and start communicating, please do communicate, if you need time to reflect, then let it be known, communicate this across. I can't speak for everyone, but I like to engage with one person at a time, so if you dissapear, you'll be putting my search on hold. Please consider this and let it be known if you are actually interested. I hope this doesn't upset anyone. Jazak Allahu khair for understanding.