A Little Bit About Me
Bismillah
I am a Scandinavian convert Muslim (for 30 years, alhamdulillah) living permanently in the UK. I work part-time and like an active but at the same time tranquil way of life. Inner peace is very important.
I am a warm-hearted and optimistic person. I avoid talking ill about other people and rather say something good to cheer people up. I hate hurting other people's feelings. I've been told that I've got positive energy, alhamdulillah. I'm not materialistic, not someone who goes around shopping for fun. I don't have a TV as I hardly watch it.
I love my deen and I normally listen to some lecture every day to learn more or as a reminder. I'd love to have more time for reading but at least every now and then manage to read something beneficial, alhamdulillah. I think that Islam should first and foremost manifest in the way we treat other people, creatures and our environment.
I like talking things through if needed, as transparency is of an utmost importance in marriage. Open and proper communication are very important, and I always try to avoid arguments. Sometimes it's wiser to keep quiet, even if you were right.
Marriage is a great blessing from Allah (SWT), and I think once you enter it, you should work for it and put effort in it, as it is something precious: that is my intention, insha Allah.
I am looking after my physical health by exercising: I have just discovered the amazing high intensity interval training and that really makes a difference! No need to spend hours and hours in the gym :-) I try to eat healthy, unprocessed and organic food. I eat twice or three times a day. No snacking!
I also play violin but very rarely nowadays. And I like dancing! Well, I'm ISFP (Myers-Briggs personality type), so I enjoy the moment and love physical expression.
I love nature and walking: the human being is designed to move, not to be sedentary. I especially love the sea and the water element in general, as it is so calming. I also like travelling - the most important journey to do would be hajj, insha Allah!
I honour and appreciate all the four imams of Ahlul Sunnah wal Jama'a, myself inclining to and wanting to learn according to Maliki madhab. However, where ever beneficial knowledge is available, I don't mind the madhab.
Tasawwuf is one of the sciences of Islam, and I think Islam without Tasawwuf is not real Islam anymore. However, there are many misguided "Sufis" nowadays. "Whoever says he is a Sufi, is not a Sufi."
I don't like argumentation in the matters of deen, and love what I learnt about Imam al-Shafi'i (R.A.), that if he was involved in a debate, he was hoping to lose the argument so that he could become more humble - Allahu akbar!
I look at the marriage as a close and secure companionship, where the partners are concerned about each others holistic well-being. For me, emotional security is of an utmost importance. I don't want any "surprises" that could undermine that trust and closeness. I believe in keeping promises and always aspire to be a trustworthy woman.
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What I Am Looking For
I'm looking for a man for marriage, not dating.
I need somebody who is willing to get married in a relatively short time, fed up with the guys who's got no clue when they could do the nikah. About three months for getting to know each other should be sufficient, insha Allah.
For me it's essential that you keep in regular contact with me: talking on the phone at regular intervals and on agreed times. I don't like guys who call any time they wish and who's texting is on the lines of: "darling, thinking of you, my beautiful queen" and all the other nonsense. And then they disappear for days and I'm unable to contact them.
So it's important that you're sensible, respectable, and have some manners.
I need a man with substance, deeper understanding on life and Islam - to whom religion is not just empty rituals, and who has a passion to learn more about the deen. As for me, my passion is to learn about the sahaba and the life of the Prophet saw.
For me it's important that my husband is loving 💕, romantic, intimate and affectionate, as I am very much like that, ma sha Allah.
Those men who think that woman has to obey the husband, stay well away! As many of those men misunderstand this idea and misuse it.
I need someone calm who is able to talk about things, especially religion, without becoming agitated. Open minded, who is able to change his view if it seems appropriate.
I need a fun and playful, but also a deep and reflective man. Someone who smiles easily (I do 🙂)
I can't marry someone with aeroplane phobia as I want to travel together with you 😊 Insha Allah.
You should be 47 - 59 years young 😊, at least 173 cm tall, non-smoker, non-drinker, and not interested in practicing polygamy.
If you suffer from a mental illness or personality disorder, please don't contact me.
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