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Seeking marriage to my match.

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My Sect
Sunni
Religiousness
Religious
My Profession
Education
Marital Status
Never married
County/State
Hertfordshire
Country
United Kingdom
Registration Reason
I'm registering to find myself a partner
A Little Bit About Me
Asalaam Wa’alaikum.

I am an educated, well mannered, well spoken, strong, independent woman with a very strong moral compass. I have lived on my own, lived and worked abroad. I am back in the UK, I want to find someone for marriage only and hope to get married soon, In’Shaa’Allah .

Now the next part may sound like a ‘rant’ to the many out there. Well guess what? It’s most certainly NOT! It’s my truth, a fact and a reality of many women out there in the same boat. I’m sorry if you feel uncomfortable or intimidated by some home truth! This is not a male bashing profile, after all, I’m here to find myself a partner aren’t I? 🤪

I am always puzzled as to why many families and men out there fear independent, educated women in their 30s? Why do they label us with a negative light? Our very prophet (pbuh) married his first wife, Khadijah (ra) who was twice widowed, a working business woman, and 15 years senior in age. Why is this great fact ignored by them? 🤔 Recently I have witnessed how ‘marriage’ have become a business transaction where either monetary assets or a house full of furnitures are expected as a dowry from the bride’s side. It’s been quite a revelation and very far fetched to what I have studied about marriages in Islam.

I have witnessed way too many frogs here who have just jumped along after spilling their beans. Many find me intriguing because I happen to be ‘different’ and many call me ‘a breath of fresh air’. All I know is that I don’t follow any form of culture that goes against Islam. Please understand, Islam is a way of life for me.

Potential parent in laws and the illiterate men here, if you are concerned over my ability to produce offsprings and think you can have a say, then I suggest you get yourself checked out first. Perhaps do an insemination test (available on the NHS) to check if you have the ability to have children and even a medical health check whilst you’re at it? I think it’s about time you stopped asserting on us over your weaknesses, don’t you? 🥴 Just to let you know, this is also an Islamic requirement too! So I haven’t made this up! Chill! 😂

I didn’t realise that searching for my match at my given age would prove to be this difficult today. Along with this, my age of maturity would be a real concern for the effeminate men who seem to lack maturity and are placed on a very high pedestal ruled by ignorance and ego. Please do NOT match me if you’re one of them!

I’ve spent years doing what I believed was morally and Islamically right. Choosing to preserve myself for the one, choosing to stay grounded, in the straight path and faithful to my religion, my moral values has earned me many labels. Since a young age I was taught that the Almighty always tests those He loves the most and the reward for observing patience is far greater than imagined. I forever remain hopeful that the Almighty will answer all my prayers soon.

People don’t realise that as a woman, I have a huge responsibility upon myself to choose my spouse wisely, for he will be, by the will of the Almighty, the father of my future offsprings, the LEADER and the one who will be a role model. My future offsprings will have every right over their father and I, so I owe it to the Almighty, myself and my future to choose right. Then why is this so difficult for people to understand?

⚠️ Sleaze bags, stay away! Many here lack all awareness of communication, moral Islamic etiquettes, or any sense of commitment to marriage. When I choose self respect over desperation, I am called arrogant. I get called boring and difficult for refusing to please men’s sexual appetite be it over a late night call or a proposed role play over a video call or over a meeting. Seriously? Is this what searching for a spouse has resorted to today? 🤦🏻‍♀️

I am called stubborn and outspoken for standing my ground in what I believe in and not being docile as expected from women in this south Asian culture. Who made such social conditioning rulings? Are there not any normal, decent people and families about today?

My years of searching for my spouse still continues today and it only gets more difficult, SubhanAllah. However, I am hopeful and believe there are great men out there! 😊

These are some of my experiences in my spouse search and as you’ve guessed it, it’s been a difficult one. This damsel in distress still awaits for her knight in shining armour to come and rescue her from this harsh world. I am hopeful he will come soon. 👸 🤴

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What I Am Looking For
I seek a MAN. (Notice the block capitals) Character of a man from my father’s generation and their forefathers’ who led a family and took care of all duties and responsibilities with Islam being the central focus.

Hopefully he will maintain a good flow of communication with maturity, respect, dignity and high moral values.🤞

The ideal person should be:

- British - open to all ethnicity and revert

- age between 33-38
- height from 5’7 and above
- someone who has not been married before and is not a parent.

- must be educated to a degree level
- atypical, established, intelligent, independent and emotionally mature.
- must be driven and ambitious - should know what he wants from life

- must know how to pray his five daily salahs, should pray or tries to practice at the very least
- should know how to read from the Quran and in Arabic too!

- understands the Islamic fundamentals of marriage and not the cultural rulings - this includes having the means to secure a place for his spouse and not expect to live with a house full of in-laws! I’m too old to live with a family especially when I want to start my own family! Privacy is a must! Sorry but not sorry. It’s also my Islamic rights!

- decent, observes modesty and carries this out in his mannerisms

- knows, understands and practices the etiquettes of giving respect and observing patience
- cleanliness is a must spiritually, emotionally and physically.
- non smoker, non drinker

The above is mainly about the character and what I believe will be my true match.

If you have managed to reach this far and liked what you've read, then please do get in touch. I promise I won’t bite! 😂Thank you.

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Personal Information
My Citizenship
British
Country of Origin
United Kingdom
Willing to Relocate?
Internationally
I am Looking to Marry
As soon as possible
My Income
Prefer not to say
Marital Status
Never married
Would I like to have Children?
Yes
Do I have children?
No
My Living Arrangements?
I Live With Family
Country
United Kingdom
County/State
Hertfordshire
Distance
unknown
Appearance
My Height
1.60m (5' 3")
My Build
Slim
My Hair Colour
Black
Colour of My Eyes
Brown
Do I Smoke?
No
Do I Have Any Disabilities?
No
Education
My Education Level
Masters degree
Subject I Studied
English
Language
My First Language
English
My Second Language
Bengali
Work
My Profession
Education
My Job Title
Teacher
Religion
Religiousness
Religious
My Sect
Sunni
Hijab/Niqab
Yes Hijab
Beard
Prefer not to say
Are You a Revert?
No
Do You Keep Halal?
I Always Keep Halal
Do You Perform Salaah?
Always