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It's not often one has to write about themselves, a challenging venture not least of all because it is one fraught with the concept of maintaining balance. Balance between presenting an accurate representation of yourself, whilst maintaining some semblance of mystery and intrigue. A balance between being serious enough to convey the sincerity of your intentions, yet maintaining a personable and fun tone. A balance between presenting both the positive and negative attributes you possess so as to provide an authentic portrayal of yourself in regards to compatibility. Ultimately, balance is one of the main qualities people seek in a marriage so what better place to exhibit this than on a matrimonial site. With this in mind, my introduction may be lengthy and verbose, but I assure you I am not a narcissist!
To start with the basics, I am 29 years old and currently live in Manchester with my parents, and two younger brothers. I also have an older brother and sister who are both married Alhamdullilah. I am of Pakistani heritage but am somewhat fairly disconnected from Pakistani culture. For example I can (mostly) understand Urdu, yet I am hopeless at speaking it although I am told I am hilarious when I try so that’s got to count for something! I was born in Scotland and spent my formative years there. No I do not still have a Scottish accent, and yes I love the movie 'Braveheart' (who doesn't?)
I studied Law at University and went onto complete my Masters and LPC. I work in the Legal industry at a law firm that I love and I am currently a trainee solicitor. I am due to qualify as a fully fledged lawyer/solicitor in March 2018 Inshallah. I have always had a keen interest in the Law and legal system and consider myself blessed to be able to work in a dynamic, rewarding field which I enjoy day in, day out.
I am a very family oriented person and love spending time with my family and friends. I would love to have a family of my own one day inshallah. I am quite a sociable and personable individual and find myself able to get along with most people. That being said, I can count on one hand the people around me who I would consider good friends. I have a small and close knit circle of good friends and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Quality not quantity is my motto and I prefer to surround myself with those few good friends and companions who bring out the best in me and help me towards good, both in this life and the hereafter.
One of my great passions in life is travelling. I love going on holiday and travelling, experiencing different sights, sounds, smells, tastes, cultures, people and traditions is truly amazing. Mark Twain wrote "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness" and I hold this to be true. Alhamdullilah so far in my life I have been blessed enough to travel to Pakistan, Saudi Arabia (for both Umrah and Hajj), Jordan, Palestine, Turkey, Hungary, France, Romania and the UAE. I would consider myself somewhat of a beach lover in that whilst on holiday, I love nothing more than sitting on a beautiful beach, listening to the waves and marveling at the beauty Allah has placed in this world. I would love to find a partner who also shares my fondness of travel so that we can travel the world together. I still have so many places I wish to visit on my bucket list; New Zealand, Thailand and the far east, South America and South Africa to name a but a few. I would consider myself quite an adventurous soul and think some of the best travel experiences can be found off the beaten path as it were. I would love to go on a safari holiday one day inshallah as I am also quite the wildlife lover.
Aside from travelling I also have a love of literature. I have quite a wide and varied taste in my choice of reading material, at times it can be classical and period literature, other times I just can't get enough of a good murder mystery or spy thriller. I also enjoy reading about Islam and love learning more about this beautiful religion of ours and especially enjoy stories of the Prophet (SAW) and his companions. It definitely puts things in perspective when people complain it is hard to be a Muslim in this day and age!
I also enjoy sports and keeping fairly active. I am not an avid football fan but I do keep up to date enough to be able to enjoy the big games and I particularly love it when the World Cup is on. I am more of a boxing/MMA fan and love getting together with friends and family to watch the big fights. I am also a bit of a video game fan and quite happily turn into a man-child when placed in front of my Xbox or Playstation!
I also try going to the gym as and when I can, although I must admit I am guilty of finishing a long day at work and watching my plans to go to the gym crumble to dust as I get in home and settle on the sofa for a little bit of Netflix! Although I am no couch potato I have spent more weekends than I care to admit lost in a Netflix/TV haze. I am currently watching 'House of Cards' which I highly recommend 🙂 I also love 'Game of Thrones', it really makes Mondays worth getting through, and am eagerly awaiting the new season of 'The Walking Dead'. I have quite a wide and eclectic taste in movies and TV, some of my favorite movies are 'The Lord of the Rings' trilogy and 'The Dark Knight' trilogy ( I love Batman!). I also love sci-fi movies (closet geek) and horror, and must admit I am partial to a rom-com when the mood takes me. Anything with Will Ferrell or Kevin Hart is a winner in my books so bonus points if you also appreciate their comedic timing and appeal.
I am a fairly simple person and don’t consider myself to be particularly materialistic, however I do have a penchant for designer shoes and clothing. A collection of which over the years may rival some women's! I also love my perfumes and aftershaves and have quite a steady collection. I am by no means a snob but do enjoy some of the finer things in life every so often.
I don’t take life too seriously and think its important to enjoy life and the experiences it throws at you. Sometimes you just have to have a laugh and be a bit silly. My friends would describe me as a bit of a 'cheeky chappie' and a happy go lucky guy. That being said, I am not a complete carefree airhead (As blissful as that may be). I appreciate that there are moments in life that demand seriousness and have had my fair share of troubles in life and have learnt that even when things can be a bit uphill and challenging, by seeking solace in Allah and gaining a positive mental attitude from that most things can be overcome by remaining true and steadfast.
I have been married once before and Allah in his wisdom saw fit that that marriage should end after 8 months. I bear no ill feeling from that nor am I bitter about it or hung up on it. I see it as an experience from which I learned a lot both about myself and about marriage as a union and what I would want from a marriage in the future. I wont bore you with the details here, but if this is something any potentials may wish to discuss further or want further clarification on, I am more than happy to answer any questions 🙂
I am in no rush to get married and would like to take time to get to know someone to ensure compatibility and a long, successful marriage inshallah. However, parental/familial involvement from the early stages is welcomed and encouraged 🙂 I do not have any criteria in regards to ethnicity, background, profession etc but I would prefer a Sunni Muslim. Reverts are also welcome.
Islam is very close to my heart. I am not the most practicing Muslim nor do I profess to be and ideally I would like to find a partner with whom we could encourage each other to do more to fulfill our Islamic duties. Harking back to the concept of balance, I do believe Islam teaches balance in thought and action. One of my favourite hadiths seems to exhibit this: Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “The deen is ease. Whoever makes the deen too hard for himself will be overpowered, so direct yourselves to what is right, follow a middle course, accept the good news of the reward for right action, and seek help [to reach your goal by being constant in worshipping] in the morning, evening and some of the night.” I do pray 5 times a day, and always keep halal. I do not drink alcohol and never have Alhamdullilah. I really should read the Qur'aan more often and attend more Islamic functions, and inshallah I will find a partner who will encourage me to do so and accompany me. I am by no means extreme nor do I force my religious views on others. To that end, whether or not a woman wears the hijab is not an issue to me personally as long as she dresses modestly. Additionally, if a woman wishes to work and have a career that is also something I would support.
I would consider myself a bit of a foodie and enjoy going out to eat and try new dishes and old favourites. Having been married before and being responsible for my own household for an albeit short period of time, I am quite domesticated and take great pride in keeping my house tidy and maintaining the responsibilities of running a household. I can also knock together a fair few dishes in the kitchen. Im no Masterchef but I can make a couple fairly edible dishes! Im not averse to doing chores and really come into my element doing the dishes, something about it is therapeutic to me! Marriage is an equal partnership so I am not the type to leave all of the household duties to my partner. I am happy to pitch in else I would probably feel a bit useless!
I would describe myself as a bit of a hopeless romantic at heart. The Hadith of the Prophet (SAW) in which he states 'the best of you are those that are best to their wives' particularly resonates with me. I envisage myself as being the sort of husband who dotes on his wife, provides her time and attention, affection and care, and appreciates the value of good old fashioned romanticism in a marriage. I would also like a wife who is quite loving and affectionate and can also provide that to me. That being said, a marriage doesn’t mean you are joint at the hip and I certainly appreciate that time alone following our own pursuits/interests/ friends is also important. I am quite a sensitive soul and quite emotionally 'in-tune' with myself and other people for the most part, so I always make efforts to treat others with the same respect and regard I would wish to be shown.
Well thats quite enough writing from me, I did warn that it would be long! If you made it this far then thank you for reading and if you would like to get in touch, do feel free :)
I am seeking a woman with an appreciation of her own self worth, who is confident, funny, intelligent and a pleasure to be around. A woman who is in touch with herself emotionally and is loving, affectionate and romantic. A woman whose family I can accept as my own, and who will accept mine as hers. A woman who understands that marriage and relationships aren't all plain sailing and at times there will be difficult testing times, but appreciates the value of patience and making efforts to ensure a blissful successful marriage. A woman who is resolute and steadfast both in her faith and in standing by her man. A woman with whom I can have a family and who would be a good example to my future children Inshallah. A woman who understands that marital life can sometimes feel routine, but efforts from both sides are required to keep things fun and exciting. A woman who adds balance to my life and for whom I can add balance to theirs. A woman who appreciates that any woman can make a man fall to his knees, but only a truly great woman can raise him back to his feet when he is down and out.
Inshallah we all find the partners we hope to find 🙂
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