A Little Bit About Me
Just here to find someone I vibe with. I'm a Pakistani (Punjabi) guy and religiously I'm a moderate in the sense that I pray but I listen to music, and that I'll keep a beard but I'll trim it. Not strict or conservative.
When I'm not busy being an Engineer, I'm busy with reading, cooking , cycling, memes and reddit.
With reading I've got a goal of 52 books a year and I'm into the dry politics/history as well as lighter stuff like Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine and Kite Runner
Also love cooking, I want to be the envy of the street with my cooking, and while I can cook some dishes like baklava, tiramisu, pasta bakes now, I only want to improve and expand on my menu.
I like to take care of myself physically and mentally so PS4 and gym (when there's no lockdown) are always needed. My cat and her kittens also help.
More of an 'extroverted introvert'. If your idea of an evening out is a Netflix binge, then we're on the same page already.
What I Am Looking For
So keeping it simple, I just want someone I get on well with but here are a few things that I'd like
• Good manners
It's hard to say exactly what good manners are, but you could say being socially aware and mindful while not overstepping boundaries and offending anyone. Point is, you've got to get one with people or be willing to go out of your comfort zone to learn social skills.
As part of my journey I've been focusing on how I come across, because whatever relationship you're in, with siblings/friends/partners/colleagues etc, you need to be able to advise and correct in the appropriate way. Things will go wrong but how you go about fixing it is what matters.
• Growth mindset
Having a reason to get up and out of bed, other than to earn a living is a beautiful thing and I want to work so that I can live....not live so that I can work (cringe yes, but couldn't avoid it).
I believe it's important for each partner to have their own interests and passions. Of course you need that common foundation but you also need your own thing. I want someone who is willing to work at that and nurture and grow their own passions. Because that's what I want to do.
Some people have a past and whatever happened, deliberate action is needed to get over it and change for the better. I'm a firm believer in the transformation people can make if they want to.
• Down to earth and humble.
A woman who is competitive in which car/brand she has is not for me. I am content living a life where I can earn well (and halal) and spend on myself and family, on meaningful things. Someone who is realistic and open to compromises (because marriage has plenty of those)
I want to be able to have deep convos, and plenty of cheesy lame jokes as well. I want to have date nights out, and have random surprises from/for the partner. I'm not naive to the work you need to put into a relationship (I've done plenty of research on what makes a marriage tick, reasons for divorce, communication in a marriage and love languages lol) but I know where I want to get to.
• Takes care of herself, mentally , spiritually and physically.
I don't want to be weak/ill/fat when I get older. I want to be THAT 70 year old grandad who gets checked out by the aunties as I walk by a mosque (jk lol, don't want to be crucified for a joke)
Point is that we live our early years working for a better life but in our old age we've usually sacrificed our health for work which means the money/wealth accumulated is kinda useless. I want to be able to go for a long walk with the Mrs, or do a sports activity with her. Stuff like that.
• Wants to work, post marriage.
Also would add someone who isn't in a hurry to have kids. I want to wait for a few years because I want to bond with my wife and build a relationship before having kids.
Bonus if you enjoy reading. I'll take some book suggestions happily.