A Little Bit About Me
My name is Ahmed. I am a really friendly person, and really easy to get along with. I could get along with almost anyone. I am respectful and smile a lot haha. I try to help people when they need help. I am open minded and not judgmental or one of those strict guys who would get jealous over little things. I enjoy listening to music, watching movies, karaoke, playing basketball and football, exercise(try to anyways:)), hanging out/socializing. I have no problem enjoying the simplest things in life. All in all i believe that im a good guy and really easy to get along with and takes a lot to get me angry...I hate arguing and fighting! just be cool..I am a Muslim, so religion is important to me but im not strict in certain aspect of it like eating out and having chicken some place outside of home for instance (i like that, its fun). I do have good faith in Islam though. I try to pray whenever I remember and i go to masjid. I am currently volunteering at a local masjid for their sunday school operations. Having a good balance of everything is not a bad thing. Im about 5'6"-5'7" or so, black hair light brown eyes, average build which is under construction at the gym and hope to change that status to 'toned' haha, and uh tho im a positive person, I tend to dislike aspects of my appearance. I get self conscious about them sometimes, but if you can overlook a kinda big nose and my smile then it is fantastic! and a blessing. Idk no one seems to mind it though except for myself. I guess there are certain things ppl dont like about themselves that others dont see as a big deal. Anyways, im still content with myself but just thought id throw it out there so you see everything b4 hand. But its all good, C'est la vie..such is life :)
Im exploring this site kinda on my own w/o my parent's or anyone's knowledge. just seeing whats here, and potentially what could be.
oh yea, one more thing, i havent officially become a member yet. Im working on it, and b/c its like 40 bucks or more a month, im trying to clear things with my dad (hopefully) and trying to get my graduate classwork out of the way. I havent fully committed to the site yet. Therefore, i cant access my messages and all the perps that goes with gold membership. i dont mean to be rude by ignoring them, i just cant access them. Only see that I have a message. Sorry for the inconvenience! hope you understand.
What I Am Looking For
Well...Since im a really nice person and easy to get along with, I want someone who wouldn't take advantage of that. Some girls do take advantage of those kinds of qualities in a guy & often take it for granted. When i hear about domestic violence, its one thing that irritates me. I make sure and promise myself that im not going to be like that. I dont want to be an intimidator, but an intimator (haha i kno i kno, kinda lame..its not a word,but you know what i mean!) I hope that my 'other half' sees the joy & privilege of having a relationship that is easy going and tension free. Im a pretty humble person as well. I want someone who is caring, understanding, open minded, not manipulative, not controlling,not bossy (my way or no way attitude), is respectful to me, appreciates me for who i am, and someone who does not get easily angered/jealous(life is 2 short to be like that). I dont think its a tall order at all. I mean I intend to do the same. So basically it means a cool, laid back person who doesn't cry over spilled milk...you know?
Moreover, my hope with my significant other is to have someone who is real down to earth, respectful, and understands the Pakistani/Muslim/desi culture. That's really for my parents because they want someone that they can relate to coming from similar cultures.
I like to joke around...so sarcasm is great and a lil poking fun here and there without it getting personal makes a relationship go a long way. I dont like to hurt people's feeling so i wouldnt get personal with jokes. just healthy doses of them. So i would like someone who can take jokes, smiles, is friendly, and isnt shy in being affectionate & what not. I am shy like that, so i want someone whose opposite of me, and who can make an impact in my life in all facets of a relationship (support, love, friendship, being there for each other, pick the other one up if the other is down).
I also want someone who would respect my family and wouldnt mind spending time with them (Esp my parents). my dad...He fears my future generation will not know their culture nor have the same values). I want to disprove his thoughts and show him there can be a balance and I would also make sure at least my kids would know where their family originally came from and remember who they are. There are great girls in America and arent all about themselves and money, & being a home wrecker basically; I am positive that she will instead uphold cultural values, respect, & core religious ones. My dad is old school..HE wants my brother and I (ideally) to live together as a family in 1 roof even when im married like traditional ways. Those from Indian and Pakistani families probably know what I mean. Hes been wanting that, and to him it represents family success instead of having the kids married off, split, and living apart and forgetting about their parents only to make occasional visits like American style. Out of respect, lol i will prolly have to accept it at first.
I would like someone who understands that part about a marriage growing up in a Pakistani culture and would not mind possibly living with parents/inlaws (haha dont worry it wont be scary). well see though..
I dont pride myself a whole lot, and i want to be proud of my significant other and be the kind of person I was talking about earlier in regards to being there in all facets of a relationship. I want someone who could make me a better person, and i will try to do the same. I like styling and being fashionable and if my significant other enjoys the same, thats great! I envision being like the "good looking couple" & 'the couple that people admire and be like Aishwarya and Abishek haha! dnt worry im not thinking too much into it. Im not trying to point out a certain image i want to attain or be that convoluted but something resembling it would be nice but isnt necessary.
haha dear...I know i have spilled a lot of beans here about what im looking for, but i wanted to basically touch on a little bit of everything that is important and should be addressed so that its all out there and you see pretty much what ive been thinking about in my head about a partner. Even though this description is detailed, its just an idea and would be the ultimate blessing if someone could fill that all out.
I hope its not a complicated set of requirements..just looking for a respectful, cool, uncontrolling, and laid back beautiful person inside and out, who understands the basic religious and culture values. I just want an easy going, chill, and happy life :) which shall be filled in with good times and positivity..inshallah!
Im not trying to charm anyone..I promise, but i feel like venting out right now...
Im a rather sentimental person and I often find myself just imagining moments that I hope i could share with someone, and it tends to bring a smile to my face. But then there is also confusion and wonder: On the other side of the moment there is a blurr. A fuzzy blurr that doesnt go away b/c there isnt a particular face to replace that blurr. I dont know who will change that blurred face to a clear, permanent one. You have these ideas and scenarios of happy moments and hope that someone could share them with you. But I dont mind patiently waiting, itd be worth the wait. lol i feel girly talking about this, but im kind of a hopeless romantic. Im sure girls you can relate. You dream about moments that kind of put a smile, or at least a smirk on your face that you envision would be great to share with in a guy. Maybe you see another couple displaying something you'd like to do yourself with someone and daydream about it saying "aww I hope someday that will be me." then it makes you feel just so eager and even more excited to share those moments with someone you love. The only problem is, you dont know who it is yet and can irritate you lol..i sometimes wonder too haha.
haha okay im done..
if you have read this far, then you are a trooper! I am Impressed! lol it means you didnt freak out
i dont know what ill find here,..maybe a friend or maybe someone more! im uncertain about this like a lot of you but im giving it a shot.
Keep faith everyone, hope good things comes for all of us all on here! Ameen.
Thanks for reading.