A Little Bit About Me
Bismillaher Rahmaner Rahim.
Like any one else, I am a human and no where near perfect. I believe in sincere effort. I evaluate my self on a regular basis and try to improve on my short comings. I do not belittle others and expect the same in return. I am committed to the responsibilities of marriage in context of religion and not in context of cultural values.
I, Alhamdulilah, do not have any bad habits like smoking, drinking, gambling, drugs.
I am more than willing to take part in home chores. It is nothing new to me. I am against a wife having to do all the chores at home. I have done everything from cleaning, changing diapers, feeding (waking up at night multiple times for months on end) for my baby to help cleaning the house etc. So, nothing odd or new to me.
I am more interested in spending and having good time with family than spend time with friends. As a matter of fact, my ex would complain that I am too attached with home!
I have to admit that I am not the person into much talking. I, actually, am fine talking about religion, world issues, politics but am not a person that would gossip. So, you may find me boring in that sense! but I am a good listener though! :)
The not so bright things about me: I tend to procrastinate but I think I have gotten better with time; I have difficulty in saying "no"; I do snore; I do not like to sleep in very warm room temperature (more that 76 F is too warm!, just can't sleep!); I hate being home alone. I am sure there will be more to add to this list
And yes, I do, Alhamdulilah, have a full time very satisfying job. I try make it a point, as much as possible, not bringing work home.
The more you know me, the odds are you will, maybe, like me. Allah knows.
I do not posses the ability to read minds. I pray that if there is blessing and good, may Allah (s.w.t) make me find the right partner InshAllah.
What I Am Looking For
Looking for someone who really understands or is committed to understanding the meaning, value and responsibilities of marriage in context of religion and not in context of cultural values. Honesty, caring, affectionate, NOT gullible, patient and understanding.
I am interested to invest my life, affection, and responsibilities with that special person who learns from experience and tries to be a better person.
Pays a lot of weight towards Islam and tries to improve. Genuine intentions and the correct attitude. Really, attitude says it all!
Shares her beauty ONLY with her husband rather than with the world! As a matter of fact, if you happen to be a beauty queen and your beauty does not reflect on your heart, I am NOT the one!
Modesty Please! I am not into a lady who claims to be a Muslim and puts on "Hijab" that does not serve its purpose!
Yes, one can be angry, sad, mad and have a lousy day, but it dose not have to taken out on the partner! I am a good listener, actually a very good listener and will be there to listen and help. But sometimes I will need someone to listen to me!
Yup, learned it first hand; money and status will not get you happiness. Patience, understanding and, most importantly, sticking to your religion will.
To me, "ideal couple" does not exist. Yes, in Jannah but not in this world. If some one claims it, that is a hmm.. a lie? It takes mutual effort and lots of it and of course Allah (s.w.t)'s blessing. They are only, at least, according to me, very few of those fortunate couples. I know its a long shot but still being hopeful!
I am looking for a lady with a sincere smile, a big heart where I can find compassion. Who understands the ups and down in life without always trying to find fault at others but looking at the mirror first. Having patience is always so helpful.
Should you be interested to know more about me, please be prepared to answer these questions:
1. What are your top 3 expectations from an "ideal" marriage? (Please feel free to list more or maybe less :))
2. Given that you have gone through this difficult phase in your life, how has it made you to be a better person? (based on the assumption that no one is perfect:))
3. What are the things that are completely unacceptable? (please tell me occasional snoring does not count:))
4. How does this statement sound? "I have honestly tried but let me see what else can be done to resolve this situation"