A Little Bit About Me
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Alhamdulillah, I am an Islamic research scholar and also, a businessman. I was born and brought up in Saudi Arabia but have been residing in my home city of Bareilly, in the state of Uttar Pradesh, in northern India, since 1999.
My education involves studying worldly curriculum till high school and after that, I made the switch towards pursuing Islamic studies in a traditional Islamic seminary in my home city of Bareilly. Alhamdulillah, I graduated in the year 2005. Whether I was in worldly studies or in Islamic studies, I was always, Alhamdulillah, a hard-working student and I was always amongst the toppers, again, Alhamdulillah. My report cards and certificates can be a testament to this, if anyone wishes to see them.
Alhamdulillah, I am very passionate about Deen and try to bring into practice what I have learnt till now. Learning about Deen is a lifelong experience and even after spending so many years in this field, I can say that I know very little.
Personally, I have sacrificed a lot to lead a life according to the beliefs and tenets of Islam. I have faced quite a lot of opposition in my life, both from outside and from within but Alhamdulillah, Allah the Almighty gave me the strength and continues to do so to fight all the opposing forces and I pray that He keeps on doing so till my last breath.
The worst enemy is truly the one that resides within us i.e. our egos, our desires, our lusts. Others do not try to hamper our progress in Deen as much as this enemy. When we are alone, there is no one who says to us, you can't pray but this eternal enemy, it instigates us to leave prayers and do all sorts of Haram. That's why it is important to constantly keep on fighting our egos and ask Allah the Almighty for regularity and ease to follow Deen.
I do not adhere to the Salafi, Deobandi, Shiite or Ahmadi ideologies and I would not consider proposals if anyone follows one of the above ideologies. Alhamdulillah, I adhere to the beliefs and practices of Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama'ah and celebrating Mawlid/Milad un Nabi (Peace and Blessings be upon him) is one of them.
I am, Alhamdulillah, a cool-headed person and I am usually very soft-spoken. People have this tendency to share some of their secrets with me because they consider me to be trustworthy and accordingly, I honor their trust in me and I try to guide them according to Deen. I do not betray anyone's trust in me. I do get angry if someone tries to be a smart alec in front of me or shows arrogance.
I am an introvert, which means that I prefer solitude over a crowd. If the crowd is of good people, who indulge in good and beneficial talks, then surely this crowd is better than solitude.
Alhamdulillah, I can cook and I do make some of the tastiest meals one can have. Also, I do some cardio exercises almost everyday. I am somewhat of a chubby person, with, Alhamdulillah, no major illnesses.
Alhamdulillah, I do not smoke, have never smoked and will Insha-Allah never smoke in my life. I have never even smoked hookah. In fact, I am highly allergic to cigarette smoke. Also, I am allergic to strong fragrances and some other things as well.
Alhamdulillah, I have never been involved in any physical Haram relationship with any female and Insha-Allah, my wife will be my first love. Some might ask as to why I have remained single till now, well, I have had my reasons and its not that I haven't been searching all these years and yes, it hasn't been easy, especially with so many Haram temptations everywhere but Alhamdulillah, Allah the Almighty saved me and Insha-Allah, now I am ready to marry the right prospect as soon as possible.
In a way, I say that me marrying at my age is a blessing in disguise. Alhamdulillah, I am more mature now than I was 10 years ago. Maybe, I would have made a decision solely based on lust back then, without knowing much about the prospect and who knows, how the marriage would have affected me and my Deen. Now, I don't get excited like many youngsters do, I do not consider marriage as only a means of sexual gratification, I value it as a lifelong commitment and ultimately, my intention is to attain Jannah through my marriage. It includes me treating my wife well and understanding her views and opinions as well and correcting her if she is mistaken or accepting her advice if I commit a mistake.
Alhamdulillah, I am quite jovial and an optimistic person. My optimism stems from my faith in Allah the Almighty and His Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him). I don't get overwhelmed quite easily if things start to fall around me. Alhamdulillah, I try to remain calm and think of how to deal with the situation. Sometimes, I do get agitated but that's more because of my own stupidities and shortcomings.
I live in my home city with my elderly parents and in the foreseeable future, I see myself living here only. My parents need me and I need their Duas and love. So, I will not consider moving anywhere else, no matter how compelling everything might seem. Its my wife who will have to consider moving here with me, if she is not from my home city or from India.
I belong to the Sheikh caste/community for those who want to know.
What I Am Looking For
After reading the first part of my profile, I am sure the reader must have understood somewhat about who I am and what's my way of life. Some readers are actually put off by the length of my profile but I feel that it is necessary to write in detail because those who are actually serious, they value all the information they can get before initiating any sort of dialogue.
Sometimes, I feel, should I even write anything about who I am searching for? Alhamdulillah, Allah the Almighty has bestowed every human being with a level of intellect and after reading about me, a woman can herself decide whether I am a person worthy to initiate dialogue with and whether she would be comfortable with me and my way of life.
But, because it is human tendency to know what the front person holds in his or her heart, I will write in concise some of the things that I would prefer in my future wife.
My future wife could be anyone. She could be a very pious woman, she could be someone who has just turned religious, she could be someone who wants to become religious, she could be someone who has just accepted Islam from being a non-Muslim. I do not look at the present state of an individual, I always look at the potential of a person and in this case, I look at the level of interest she holds in her heart for Islam. If my future wife knows that Islam is the only way of life and strives for it, even if she commits mistakes, then Insha-Allah, she is a perfect match for me.
I do not have to say that I want a wife who would pray 5 times a day, keep fasts, observe the Hijab, respect me, love me, would not flirt with other men because if she is serious about Deen, these things will automatically be imbibed in her. I am not someone who would be always suspicious about my wife and her activities if I see that she fears Allah the Almighty more than anyone else. Even if I see she is talking with a male on the phone, I would be at ease knowing that she would be doing so because of necessity and not flirting with him.
I personally would prefer a woman who has also faced difficulties and opposition in this world and has seen the true face of this world. When this world breaks a person, a person comes out of it more humble, more appreciative of Allah the Almighty's blessings and more motivated to follow the path of Deen. Those who have struggled understand the struggles of others as well and know how hard they have worked for their achievements. I am sure a woman who has herself struggled for Deen will understand my struggles for Deen and I hers and this way, we both can appreciate each other and hold each other's hands more tightly.
Although I am not someone who judges people on the basis of their looks, I do feel that in marriage matters, the spouse must be attractive so that one does not feel compelled to look at others with lust. The level of attraction is actually based on one's own perspective. Maybe I am attracted to a woman who is not considered attractive according to the worldly standards, so I personally would be pleased to marry such a woman. After all, I don't need a trophy wife. On the contrary, I would be appalled to marry a beautiful woman if her Deen is not beautiful.
I personally prefer natural beauty over fake beauty. I have seen some faces with tons of make up on them, which I found actually disgusting. I do not consider make up to be bad, in fact, if the wife does it for her husband, its much appreciated but I would like that whatever make up my future wife uses, it is Halal i.e. it does not contain Alcohol in any form nor does it contain animal products.
Insha-Allah, intimacy will play a very important role in building my relationship with my wife and for that, it is imperative that we stay with each other and minimize those situations where we would have to live apart for a lengthy period of time. Alhamdulillah, one of the main aspects of marriage is to fulfill the desires of a person in a Halal way and it is only possible if both of them are with each other. Shaitan the cursed instigates a person more to commit a sin when either of the spouses is away for longer periods. What most people do not realize is that Halal intimacy is a very effective means to attain Jannah, Insha-Allah because it saves a person from major Haram sins, the punishments of which are very severe as mentioned in the Holy Quran and the sayings of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him).
The past of my future wife is not of much concern to me. If she is a divorcee or a widow or was involved in relations outside of marriage with a single or multiple partners but has sincerely repented from all of the Haram activities, I will gladly accept her to be my wife. If I feel a woman with a past is more apt for me than a virgin, then I would gladly marry the former. As I said, Islam is above and beyond taboos.
Insha-Allah, I plan on having children, if Allah the Almighty wills, with my future wife. I believe having children increases the bonding between the spouses.
If I click on a profile and perhaps, the woman is not wearing the Hijab or if I click multiple times, it does not mean that I am interested in her just on the basis of her looks or I support her non-Hijab look. I always read what's written in the profile and see if there is anything that signifies her interest towards Islam and leading an Islamic lifestyle. I do not want anyone to think, what is a bearded man with Islamic cap doing looking at profiles with non-Hijab pics? I just wanted to clarify my stance.
Fluency in Urdu or English is a must to understand each other. I do understand fluent Arabic, not the colloquial one but I am somewhat semi-fluent in speaking it.
Please do not contact me if you have any ulterior motives other than marriage.
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Jazaakumullah al Khair