A Little Bit About Me
Marriage is undoubtedly a blessing of Allah the Almighty. The benefit it holds for the physical and spiritual upliftment of a person cannot be expressed in words. Two strangers, who till yesterday did not even know each other, they start loving and caring for each other in a such a way that it is almost impossible to separate them.
I am a Scholar of Islamic studies, Alhamdulillah. But in reality, I consider myself still a student of Islamic studies. The more I learn, the more I come to know that I have to learn more about Islam and its beautiful subtleties. Tasawwuf or Sufism is one field of Islam that motivates and inspires me a lot, especially to be a better person from inside than just the appearance. Alhamdulillah, I have a detailed study on this subject and have benefited quite a lot.
For the record, I am not a Salafi/Wahabi/Deobandi or a Shia/Shiite. I classify myself as a Sunni Sufi Muslim. Let me assure you that I am not the dancing and whirling type of present day "Sufis" nor am I amongst those who have totally backtracked the teachings of Deen in favour of their desires and lusts. In our times, Sufism and Sufis are distorted terms. In reality, Sufism or Tasawwuf is a field that defines a person who he really is and its main focus is the well being of the heart in spiritual terms. I am sure all will agree that greed, lust, anger, jealousy, envy, arrogance, haughtiness, grudge, hatred, deceit and many other negative emotions are found in each of us but how many of us are actually making an effort to fight and overpower these emotions? I think if we truly ask ourselves, we would find that we are way behind in fighting these negative emotions, emotions literally corrupting and decimating us inside out and yet, we remain careless. How can we expect ourselves to contribute to others when we are ourselves on the brink of self-destruction? Tasawwuf teaches a person to rectify himself first, to know where he stands and to remain humble and obedient to Allah the Almighty. It helps us to understand the pain of the others by understanding pain itself. It teaches us humility, it teaches us to eliminate the "I" within us. It helps us to recognize the evil within, our Nafs (egos, desires and lusts) and the evil outside, the wretched Shaitan and acts as a deterrent against these hidden enemies. Without Tasawwuf, a person is just a body of bone and flesh, nothing more. Tasawwuf brings life to our dead and rusted hearts and prepares our hearts to be the place where all the Hidayah or guidance can stay well rooted.
I was born and brought up in Saudi Arabia. My whole childhood and late teen years were spent in Saudi Arabia, so one can say, I am equally accustomed to the Arabian culture as I am to the Indian culture. I can understand and speak fluent English, Urdu, Hindi and have a level of fluency in classical Arabic and Persian. I am also accustomed to various cultures of the world as I had interactions with people of many ethnicities whilst growing up in Saudi Arabia.
Alhamdulillah, I have kept myself safe from all sorts of intimate physical interactions with women. I also have never smoked cigarette or hookah. I have never used drugs. Alhamdulillah, I feel and know that it is the time spent in learning about Islam and practicing it and ultimately, the blessings of Allah the Almighty that followed that has saved me from all these vices. Otherwise, I don't think anyone can remain safe from the evils of the society nowadays, especially forbidden relations with the opposite gender because when there is no fear of Allah the Almighty in a person's heart, he or she can do anything.
I am a deep thinker and usually, I remain away from loose talk. I believe remaining silent is far better than to just keep on talking for no reason. In a spousal relationship, it is very important to be an understanding and a listening partner. If one just keeps on talking and refuses to listen to the other, this relationship is bound to fail.
I belong to the Shaikh caste for those who are interested to know.
What I Am Looking For
Islam must play a pivotal role in my future wife's life. If she values Allah the Almighty and His Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him) over everyone and everything, then Masha-Allah, she is one of the greatest women of our times and it would be an honor to marry her so that I could learn and be inspired by her.
If wearing a Hijab is or will be a burden for my wife, I request such women to please not even think of contacting me. Also, she must be a seeker, an adventurous women, ready to dive deep into the vast ocean of Islamic Knowledge as without it, a person is just flesh and bones, not a soul.
Although many might think that marrying a Scholar will be quite tough and will come with many limitations, it is in fact freedom and independence from fulfilling other people's wishes because an Islamic Scholar will only guide and advise to follow the will of Allah the Almighty. So, instead of getting tied up to the wishes of hundreds of people, it is better to humble oneself to Allah the Almighty and who better to help anyone walk this path than a Scholar. It seems marrying me will have some benefits after all, lol.
I always value a beautiful heart over a beautiful face. Usually, everyone says this but as I have aged and matured, Alhamdulillah, I say this, not just in words but from the depth of my heart. I dont want to marry just on the basis of looks. Looks can and will fade but a beautiful heart is forever. Although I don't think this applies to me but if anyone thinks I am attractive, please don't marry me just on the basis of looks. Kindly see my heart first and then decide whether I am good enough to be your spouse or not. Does this mean that a beautiful face has no value? Wrong, it does have a value and physical attraction too plays an important role in deciding who to marry but it is not the only deciding factor.
I do not mind marrying a divorcee or a widow or a revert. I cannot marry someone with children as Indian laws are quite tough in adoption, especially if they are foreigners and also, I will not like the intrusion of the children's father in my wife's life and it will keep on happening because of their children.
I will not move to any other country.