A Little Bit About Me
I hope you are well and good. Thank you for visiting my profile.
Alhamdulillah, I am an Islamic Research Scholar as well as a Restaurateur (yes, a unique combination). I was born and brought up in Saudi Arabia. At the age of 16, I came back to India to pursue higher education because foreign students weren’t allowed in Saudi colleges and universities back then. In my family, I have my parents, an elder brother (unmarried) and a younger sister (unmarried). We belong to the Shaikh community of north Indians.
I follow the Hanafi school of Fiqh and I am inclined towards the teachings of Tasawwuf (Sufism) and try to incorporate them in my life as much as possible because without a beautiful interior, whole identity of a person is fake. Tasawwuf mainly deals with our intentions, emotions and helps us to control our impermissible urges/desires/lusts. I mainly follow the works of Imam Ghazali, Imam Abdul Qadir Jilani, Shaikh Sa’di and Alahazrat Imam Ahmad Raza Barelvi (May Allah the Almighty bless them all).
There are some misconceptions regarding Sufism. Some people equate it with innovation, some with Shirk. The truth is that whatever actual Sufism is, it is neither an innovation nor shirk and whatever is an innovation or shirk, it is not actual Sufism. One cannot help if others hijack Islamic terms and use it for their own benefits. They are the culprits, the fault does not lie in the Islamic concepts and practices.
I do not smoke, have never smoked and I make sure that I remain away from smokers. Alhamdulillah, I have never been involved in any casual friendship or relationship with any female.
I like to be alone rather than be with bad company. Bad company for me is not just those who are involved in crimes. Those people who are drowned in worldly desires and do not show any concern for Deen and the Hereafter, they are also a bad company for me. I do not like to sit amongst people just to seek their attention or appreciation.
Alhamdulillah, I am multilingual. I am fluent in Urdu, Hindi and English. Alhamdulillah, I am fluent in classical Arabic and Persian as well, I understand the Holy Quran and the sayings of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him) very well but I cannot understand colloquial Arabic that is spoken nowadays mostly except for the words that are pronounced properly.
Alhamdulillah, I can cook, drive a car, ride a scooter and motor bike.
Alhamdulillah, I am physically and mentally well. I am a little bit on the chubby side i.e. not skinny or athletic. I am not much of a hairy person apart from the beautiful Sunnah beard on my face. Alhamdulillah, I am also not going bald, so when I take off my cap, you will see only hair (unless I purposefully go bald right before marriage). I take care of personal hygiene and give importance to eating healthy and remaining healthy.
I am unfortunately allergic to many things, mostly dust, change in weather, perfumes, incense sticks, chicken farms or wherever live chicken is stored.
What I Am Looking For
As much as it is important to marry the right person, it is more important that one be righteous himself or herself first so that good people are attracted to us. It is no use for me to write a big paragraph here about describing the right woman for me if I am not good and pious myself.
That being said, marriage is a big responsibility. This responsibility becomes easy when both the spouses prioritize Deen over personal preferences. The husband might prefer some things, the wife might prefer something else, but when Deen is the uniting factor between them, it becomes easy to accommodate each other.
Before anything else, my search for my future wife starts with her Deen. Love for Deen must be the most defining factor in my future wife. One can be lacking in practice but the will to rectify oneself for the sake of Allah the Almighty and His Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him) must be there.
I personally like those who acknowledge they know less and strive to learn more about Deen regularly. I totally abhor those who, even though know nothing, show as if they know everything about Deen. Just by reading a few books or watching a few videos does not mean a person has become knowledgeable in Deen.
As is apparent from my profile, I live in India and it is here that I will live with my wife, Insha-Allah. Anyone who is interested to pursue talks with me regarding marriage, she has to keep this basic point in her mind. I am not willing to relocate but I can marry a woman of another nationality who is willing to relocate.
Insha-Allah, I intend on having one of the best and healthiest married lives. Mutual attraction, both physical and intellectual, plays a huge part in keeping love intact between the spouses. I don’t care if a woman is a Miss World, if there is no intellectual parity between the spouses, it is no use to marry just on the basis of looks. Likewise, if there is intellectual parity but physical appearance is something that does not appeal to us, marriage might not succeed. One of the reasons of marriage is to fulfill one’s desires in Halal way and physical appearance plays a huge role in it.
Also, I do not want any sort of frequent altercations with my wife. It disturbs the mental peace of both the spouses, it disturbs the peace of the house, it portrays a wrong picture on the kids.There are ups and downs in any marriage but it is important that ups are 99% and downs only 1% and whenever any down pops up, it is sorted out then and there through talks and understanding. The purpose of marriage is to be happy, not to be in a wrestling match. For this very reason, I would want to discuss each and everything beforehand that might become an issue between us after marriage. It is best to be as open and true as possible while portraying oneself in marriage talks.
I will surely consider divorcees or widows because I do not consider marrying them as taboo. When our Deen has given us multiple options, why should we limit ourselves? Reverts who are willing to relocate to India are also welcome to get in touch.
Fluency in Urdu or English is a must to understand each other.
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Jazaakumullah al Khair