A Little Bit About Me
I'm an open minded and flawed man who has a strong tendency to always look on the bright side. I have been practising for a few years now after being quite neglectful towards my religious duties when I was younger. When I say ‘neglectful’ – please don’t get the wrong idea. I wasn’t out raving or getting ‘involved’ with people (that fear of Allah SWT has always been there), it was more a case of me being ignorant towards the importance of Salah. I now feel as though I'm in a good place and on a real journey of personal and spiritual self-development. Alhamdulillah.
Yes - I’m a divorcee (which I would gladly elaborate on), though this ‘status’ is more of a technicality than an actual reality if that’s any reassurance. It probably isn’t and I’m still fully expecting to be stigmatised and condemned (probably from people who have been in a haram relationship themselves!). It sounds crazy writing that but I guess that’s the way of the world nowadays – filled with hypocrisy!
My mum lives with me (not the other way around) and I’m totally responsible for maintaining the household, well financially at least. If you interpreted that correctly then yes – I’m an awful cook! I’m desperate to address this and genuinely believe that being able to cook (competently without burning the house down) is a great quality for a man to have. I also believe that shared responsibility and that element of ‘give and take’ forms the backbone of any productive relationship (be it in a professional, romantic or social capacity). I appreciate my living arrangements might not sit well with everyone, especially in an age where some women are expecting marriage to trigger a move from the box room under the stairs to a 5-bedroom detached luxury home with a couple of shiny new German cars parked on the drive! Having said that, I do understand the rights of a woman in Islam (well I’d like to think I do anyway). Therefore, I’d always be willing to compromise as I believe matters like this should be decided jointly and logically. My preference though (and it’s just a preference) would ultimately be to continue to live where I am – it just makes sense on so many levels. In truth as well, I think this house is far too big for anyone to feel/find the presence of my mum a bit invasive.
I enjoy spending time with my family and socialising with the small circle of really close friends that I have. I have a big interest in sport. Liverpool FC - Who else? I also love a good box set (Game of Thrones, The Walking Dead & Power are the current 3 for me)! I regularly go to the gym and always look to maintain a healthy weight. I'm also a bit of a geek (I’ll constantly remind you about my straight A’s at A Level) who proactively follows global political affairs (sounds depressing I know). I also absolutely love learning about Islamic history. I'm currently reading Lost Islamic History: Reclaiming Muslim Civilisation from the Past. This is well worth a read and offers an insightful overview into the amazing contributions that Muslims have made throughout history. I find this kind of stuff absolutely fascinating!
More recently, I have developed a bit of a tendency to ensure I squeeze a holiday or two in every year (it’s 4 and counting in the last 18 months alone!). I think it's important to periodically escape the hustle and bustle of everyday life and let your hair down a bit….well clearly not in my case (how I miss my curtains – just kidding!).
Whilst I would describe myself as quite ambitious, for now I'm quite content and settled with where I am career-wise. Alhamdulillah.
What I Am Looking For
I'm looking for an open minded and positive person who has a similar outlook to myself towards life. Preferably someone who is mature and whilst ambitious, fully appreciates how lucky we are (say Alhamdulillah). Ideally someone who is quite confident and personable too.
I also feel as though it’s important to be with someone who has their own professional and social life. I just feel as though that reduces the risk of either party feeling somewhat suffocated. I want to be absolutely 100% committed to something but at the same time feel liberated. I know that’s a contradiction of sorts but I hope it makes sense.
I hope this doesn't sound restrictive, but I feel as though I'd be a lot more compatible with someone who is practising or is on a journey towards becoming practising. This is important to me as I'm seeking to really build something with a partner, something which is constructive and durable but most importantly underpinned by a halal lifestyle with a clear commitment to our deen. After all, if we can’t respect and show a level of commitment towards our creator, how are we going to respect and show a level of commitment towards each other?